Back by unpopular demand, Only in Rome, will be a monthly column to present issues that will hopefully create insight, better self assessment and to share the happenings that occur in Rome. We all have something in common, in that we share Rome as our hometown. Many of us have lived here for our entire lives, many are new to the community and some have left and returned. Rome is a unique place to live and we as citizens make it even more unique.
I previously wrote a weekly column devoted to Rome for approximately two years, but life got in the way with work, family issues (caring for an elderly parent), and you name it. I took a few years away from writing and many people have asked if I was going to ever renew the column. I have decided to return, but as a monthly column as opposed to a weekly column.
The people who asked if I was going to begin to write again, thank you. Your kind words are appreciated. I asked many people what they liked best and almost all said that it made them look within and approach their position, situation, problem, etc... from a perspective that insisted that they self assess outside the sphere of emotion. The second biggest response I received is that it made them smile and laugh, many times at themselves.
Say your sorry
Saying I’m sorry for many is difficult, me included. Saying I’m sorry to the people or person we care about most seems even more difficult than saying it to someone who is just an acquaintance. I wish I knew why, but I don’t. How do you convince someone that you are truly sorry? Again, I don’t know the answer. Saying it is one thing and it’s a beginning, but showing it in your actions is another and it takes time. As I grow older, I have become more tolerant and judge much less. In many ways I believe I have become more gentle, care about others more, and expect less from others and more from myself. Expecting more from myself, sometimes presents a problem when I fail and when I fail as a result of poor decision making, selfishness, greed, etc...saying I’m sorry is hard. I want all those to know that I am sorry I hurt you and that includes family, friends, co-workers, and acquaintances. I am a flawed individual trying to improve and continue in my quest to make amends.
I hope that you will look within and find it in your heart to say I’m sorry. I’m confident that each of you reading this column can find someone within your circle that you need to say I’m sorry for a misdeed, an unkind word, taking advantage, lying too, etc...
When I do say I’m sorry, I can’t predict their response, but I do know that it’s the right thing to and when I do the right thing for the right reason, the outcome is positive.
Consider saying I’m sorry today!
On the lighter side
Laughter is truly the best medicine. Whatever is ailing you, find something to smile or laugh about, I promise it will make you feel better. I’ve been down and out of sorts over the last two weeks, for a variety of reasons, but when I overheard this comment, it made me laugh and put it all in perspective. Two weeks ago, I had total hip replacement and used a walker for about a week. I was in the store and I heard this little boy say to his Dad, “that guy has a walker, but he looks a lot younger than Grampa.” “Grampa died after he used a walker.” “Do you think that man is going to...” before he could finish, the Dad saw that I was listening and covered his son’s mouth. The Dad began to apologize and I couldn’t stop laughing and I looked at the little boy and said “not to worry.” “I’m ok and I don’t plan on dying anytime soon..” Although, after surgery, post op days 1 and 2, if I didn’t live in a ranch house, I would have jumped out the window and if death was an option, that little boy could have been right.
Take a minute and find something to laugh or smile about.
Have a great month of February and I’ll see you again in March. Remember to put others first and to pray for someone in need. It’s good to be back...