The struggle — to stay positive in the cold and snow — is very real

Published Jan 8, 2017 at 9:00am

It’s early January and the weather is cold and snowy...No surprise, but for many who don’t enjoy the winter months, days are long and tedious.

I am one of those who prefers beautiful sunny days with the temperature around 80 with low humidity. Those three days that it occurs in Rome are my favorite three days of the year! 

What to do if your a non-winter loving creature?

My significant other should have been a travel agent. As another cold weather hater, she has planned a mid February-vacation to sunny Florida for her family. A week in the sand and sun does wonders for her mental and physical health. I must admit that I enjoy it too, but as most men out there will admit, a happy wife is a happy life.  

Consider getting involved in winter activities. Maybe skiing, snowboarding, or snowmobiling will change your perspective on the cold, snowy winter we are experiencing. Rome and the surrounding area have many amenities.

Woods Valley is minutes away, miles of snowmobiling trails are available, cross country skiing and snow shoeing are other choices. I have chosen another activity. Although I would rather be playing golf or sitting by the pool, my favorite winter activity is lighting a fire and sipping red wine as I look outside waiting for warmer days...LOL.

Seriously, I must admit that I feel better when I do get out and shovel the sidewalk or take a walk. The winters are long in upstate New York and you must get out and experience the cold. Try to find something you enjoy and incorporate it into your lifestyle.

Attitude matters

It’s taken me many years to understand, but my attitude and demeanor directly affects my performance and the actions of others.

When I demonstrate confidence, positivity, compassion, understanding, and any and all other positive attributes my personal and work lives soar to new levels. When I show traits that are less than acceptable — such as arrogance, being judgmental or anger — my performance decreases and my loved ones and coworkers suffer as well.

I know it’s difficult to be positive and upbeat all the time, but the choice is ours and it takes more effort to be mad or sad than it does to be positive and happy.

You asked

Many people ask me about where I get my ideas and subjects to write about.

Let me assure you that my life is no more or less interesting than your life , and I am probably not nearly as smart or as clever as any of you. I do have one trait that helps me come up with ideas. I am a very good listener, and I listen much more than I speak.

I learned early in life that I can learn more by listening than I can offer by speaking and that listening not only provides a source of information, but allows those speaking to feel good about themselves. It’s a win win for all.

We all have family and friends who love to hear themselves talk and when it comes time for them to listen it is obviously uncomfortable. Look inward. Are you a listener or talker?

If you honestly assess yourself as a listener, good for you, if your a talker, consider talking less and listening more. You may get a better response from your family and friends if listen to others first.

Have a great new year!

The New Year brings hope. Make changes, stick to your resolutions, be humble, and you fill in the _____ ... I believe that we control our own happiness and we can make our New Year as great and as special as we desire. Don’t underestimate your abilities.

I look forward to sharing next week’s column, you’ll have to read it to believe it.

Please remember to pray for those in need and a special prayer for all our family members who are struggling and fighting illness, disease, and injuries.

Prayer works!